Posts Tagged ‘cloth diapers’
I commend those very active mother bloggers that are able to post content several times a week. They obviously don’t have a stream of consciousness writing style like mine as it’s near impossible for me to finish typing a thought before getting interrupted. I really wish that I could write more, there is so much I want to share!
The fact that this pregnancy has kicked my ass hasn’t helped matters. With Shammy I was huge and uncomfortable but didn’t have reason to call the midwife at all. This round I have had to call the Dr more than once a week for several weeks and have had to seriously contemplate the possibility of a trip to L&D more than once. I am at a point that any type of physical activity beyond moderate walking triggers painful and regular contractions. I can’t even load the dishwasher or do laundry without being out of commission for an hour afterwards while I try to get the contractions to stop. The Doctor’s response? “listen to your body… lie down and drink lots of fluids…. I don’t care if your house gets dirty…”
I do care that the house is getting out of hand, we’ve never been the poster family of OCD clean but I hate that something as simple as picking up toys from the living room floor is beyond my scope. So imagine how easy it is for me to chase after the toddler when I’m home alone all day, I usually feel like death by the time he finally goes down for a nap.
This round it feels like making it to 31 weeks is an accomplishment but enough whining about me…
I’m starting to become annoyed at the fact that so many websites/books make a mom feel like she can’t breastfeed without a breastpump. I know that I felt that way too the first time around and securing the right pump at the right time became a source of stress. I am not anti-breastpump, they are great, they have their place, but they’re not a must have item like consumerist advice sources seem to make us feel, specially if mom is not going back to work again. There can be some cases in which a mom may have to pump in the first few days (baby in the NICU, etc) but having it “just in case” seems to cause more trouble than is needed. I’ve seen cases of oversupply, nipple confusion from introducing bottle too early and unnecessary stress about milk supply because a pump is a horrible indicator of how much milk a breast truly has.
I’m not trying to tell people to not get a pump, but rather hold off on it until AFTER baby is born to see if you truly need it (they’re expensive!), I don’t recommend pumping for at least the first 2 weeks and if you must for a medical reason, the hospital or WIC can set you up quickly.
So what if you need to pump milk and don’t have a pump? Hand expression is free and not that hard. Feel like you must have a pump? go ahead, just don’t become its slave and let it mess with your confidence.
Speaking of WIC, there is a new petition floating around the internet to have WIC provide cloth diapers to low income families. As huge of a cloth diaper advocate that I am I did not sign this petition. Why? Because it will never happen! I’m not against the government helpingwithcloth diapers but this is not the program for that. WIC is a nutrition program funded by the US Department of Agriculture, cloth diapers are not food. It takes an act of congress to change anything about what WIC gives and even if congress wanted to support fluff, it will never be through the WIC program.
Speaking of fluff, I have become quite the fluff-activist lately. I’ve had the opportunity to teach a couple of cloth diaper classes and during Real Diaper Week in April I converted no less than 9 moms to cloth diapers, yay!
Shammy has gotten a new nickname from my husband, he is now the “boob zombie” because when he wakes up in the morning he walks around groggily saying “side…. side…. side….” until he finds my boob. (side is the word that he uses for nursing).
Even though he’s not going to finish weaning anytime soon, he is taking steps in that direction and my pregnancy hormones are making it very hard for me to cope with it emotionally. The first time he went to sleep without asking to nurse I cried. The other night I woke up in the middle of the night, remembered this poem and cried uncontrollably for almost 2 hours over the last 3 lines of it.
Wean Me Gently
I know I look so big to you,
Maybe I seem too big for the needs I have.
But no matter how big we get,
We still have needs that are important to us.
I know that our relationship is growing and changing,
But I still need you. I need your warmth and closeness,
Especially at the end of the day
When we snuggle up in bed.
Please don’t get too busy for us to nurse.
I know you think I can be patient,
Or find something to take the place of a nursing -
A book, a glass of something,
But nothing can take your place when I need you.
Sometimes just cuddling with you,
Having you near me is enough.
I guess I am growing and becoming independent,
But please be there.
This bond we have is so strong and so important to me,
Please don’t break it abruptly.
Wean me gently,
Because I am your mother,
And my heart is tender.
~ Cathy Cardall
The leash came in super handy a few weeks ago when we took Shammy to the Renaissance Faire, he was able to walk and explore without risk of losing him in the crowds of having him run into a sword demonstration or similar dangerous situation. We saw over a dozen parents with the same idea. There was a wide assortment of animals on toddler’s backs, more than I have ever seen in my life… cumulatively!
I have been very pleased with my parenting decisions so far but there are a handful of things that I would do differently next time, nothing major. This list is not comprehensive but it gives you an idea.
Would they get done? Maybe some….
What I would do differently
1- I would hire a post partum doula and/or accept cooking/cleaning help. The first few weeks were brutal, specially after hubby went back to work and I would spend the bulk of the day alone with baby while recovering from surgery. Nothing got cleaned, I barely ate and it was just a miserable time.
2- I would get a real high chair, booster seats are not the same.
3- I would make sure that my husband has a carrier that works for him, babywearing rocks and I want him to experience it too.
4- I would get professional professional newborn photos. We have hundreds of cute Shammy pictures but they’re all amateur shots.
5- I would not listen to the incorrect breastfeeding advice given by the nurses at the hospital, instead I would follow what I had already learned. This would have saved time, headaches and sleep and Shammy wouldn’t have lost as much weight at first.
6- I would give elimination communication a fair chance. I barely did it and got promising results almost instantly but laziness among other factors made me drop it.
7- I would research BLW more and try it. Making my own baby food was fun but messy and he didn’t like purees all that long.
8- I would not limit the number of baby costumes that I buy for the 1st Halloween. Gotta take advantage before I loose the ability to choose what to put on. There are way too many cute choices out there!
9- Join the playgroup circuit sooner. The only thing that has stopped me this time is not having a car.
10- I would not skimp out on newborn cloth diapers and get good tiny cloth diapers like Lil’s Joeys. I tried to go cheap with prefolds and covers and Shammy couldn’t stand it so we had to use sposies until he grew into his one size diapers, don’t want to have to do that again. With enough planning I can purchase them little by little and they have a good resale value so it would still cost less than sposies.
11- Take sign language beyond the basics, we did very good with it at first and once again laziness and life got in the way and I just stopped using it. Shame on me.
12- I would fight for my placenta. It was Shammy’s roommate for over 9 months, it kept him alive and they just toss it?! It’s standard procedure for the hospital to take the placenta away and I tried to fight for it while I was lying open on the operating table and was so overwhelmed with suddenly being a mother that I didn’t push the subject after I was in recovery. To this day I feel a sense of loss about it and wish that I could get it even though I couldn’t encapsulate it I would still do art with it.
Things that I would totally do all over again
1- Labor at home. I’m now high risk and wouldn’t quality for a homebirth in most cases but would like to still labor at home for as long as possible.
2- Have a doula. My husband was awesome but he’s just one guy and great for some things but clueless on other, a doula provides the perfect complement and balance.
3- Skip on Vitamin K shot and eye goop. No regrets about skipping it, it wasn’t hard for me to take the Vitamin K drops and passing it through the breastmilk.
4- Skip/delay vaccinations. I don’t regret this one bit, in fact I’m tempted to take things a step further and delay/space them out even more. Either way I’m definitely repeating the no shots until 6 months part.
5- No circumcision (if boy). If I need to explain this one you need a Prepuce Information Pack. Heck, I’ll lend you mine!
6- Breastfeed. I am so glad that I was determined enough to overcome the speed bumps and successfully breastfeed exclusively for 6 months and continue breastfeeding today (9 months and counting).
7- Co sleep. Our bed isn’t big enough for traditional cosleeping (although Shammy made it work by kicking his daddy out of the bed and sleeping with me, lol. I would buy a king size mattress and just put it on the floor. Easier than attaching the bassinet/crib to the bed. I’ve never come close to rolling over Shammy and in my sleep my mother’s 6th sense has been known to stretch out my arm and stop my husband from rolling over.
8- Babywear. Babywearing saved my sanity during the first few months by being the only thing that would calm a screaming Shammy and even though it’s not necessary anymore I still thoroughly enjoy it. I would like to get a better hang of ring slings though.
9- Cloth diaper. So cute, so economical, so environmental. I would love to have the wallet to be constantly trying new styles but have a good working stash with that I have.
10- I would again stay home as much as possible and not accept visitors outside of family for the first 2 weeks. I am glad that I instituted this rule and stuck by it.
11- I would still refuse to cry it out. I can’t understand how someone can let their child scream for hours. And for those that use the modified method of 5 minutes on, 5 minutes off, glad that it works for you but it’s still not for me. It’s still contrary to Attachment Parenting and 1 minute is too long.
12- Use consignment sales. The only new clothes that we bought were on clearance, the rest were gifts or purchased on consignment, same for all of the gear and most toys.